Often, you find that for whatever reason your relationship with your partner ended, sometimes after a period of time, you may start thinking about your lovely partner again. When that happens, you are going to end up wanting her back again. This is the best time to sit back and ask yourself two pertinent questions – and be honest with yourself while answering these to make sure you get your ex back.
1. “What does she mean to me?”
Yes, you do know what she means to you – which is why you want her back in the first place. But, reaffirming to yourself as to what she means to you helps you go ahead on this journey, during those times, when it seems least possible or even impossible to win her back.
2. “What went wrong?”
Time for retrospection again. Think back to the crux of the problem. If the problem lies with you, then you and only you have the ability to solve it. You will, however, need to accept the fact that you were the cause of the breakup and think in terms of how this can be rectified. Perhaps she was at fault. Are you willing to completely forgive her for whatever it was that caused the breakup? Can you really live with it and not be reminded of the incident(s) every time you look at her? Assuming that you were at fault, apologies. Letting her know that you are sorry will soften her stance.
Do not come across as being overenthusiastic to get your ex back. Flooding her with texts, phone calls or visits to her home or work place would only make you look like a “stalker.” Instead, be subtle. No more than a call a day to start out with or a couple of texts. Let her know that you are thinking of her; that you miss her and would like to give your relationship another shot. Let her know what you learned from answering those two pertinent questions. Listen to her. Hear her out. She will have her own views about things and if you want to get your ex back, this is a very important step. Her views on why things ended may not be the same as yours, but she deserves to be heard out.
Make sure that you do not start the “blame game” – it is not a good idea when you want to get your ex back. Blaming each other would only bring you back to where you started in the first place, and it becomes extremely impossible to solve issues once you start throwing accusations at each other. Instead, show her that you still love her. It may be a bouquet of roses or just a little “thinking of you” card. Be there for her in little ways if she needs you. When she is comfortable enough, a quiet dinner or some quiet time alone will help ease out the tension.
It’s little gestures like these that go a long way in making the reunion possible and let you get your ex back.




